The scenario 2 months later was this: wakeups every 2-3 hours, early morning wakeups (as early as 4:30 AM!), and A LOT of crying before naps. He even started to refuse meals, expressed milk, and get tired faster when I was breastfeeding him. He stopped gaining weight! We were both exhausted and sleep deprived. I would fall asleep everywhere; I was in a bad mood most of the time – I was a nervous wreck.
I quickly realized that Karl’s attachment to me is a product of consistent, reliable parenting, loving reassurance, and confidence that I will keep him safe, secure, and protected. Opportunities to assure, comfort, and encourage him will present themselves several times every day, and when I’m well-rested, I’m more patient, more engaged, and better able to provide the love and support that are the true foundation of a secure attachment.